Known Strangers, a relationship life cycle. These are the two words holds the relationship bridge at the beginning and sometimes ending of any beautiful relationship. These two seemingly little words packs powerful meaning and affects every human alive in one way or another. The best relationship usually begins unexpectedly. We meet people as strangers and become friends for some unexpected reasons. Friendships are one of life’s greatest joys, with it we find someone we can share our heart with, someone who understands and accepts us just the way we are. It is a tremendous gift when we can have deep friendship with someone from the opposite sex. It has the ability to change our lives, manifest dreams, break our hearts, make us sick, and if we are lucky and work at it, last forever. The beginning of a new budding relationship is always exciting ! We meet people as strangers and we strike up some casual conversation with them and get to know each other. All of a sudden, they say something that you really just connect with. From there, the conversation flows. We start to exchange details and the love fest continues…
This is how it all starts.
In the beginning there are butterflies, emotions run high, the heartstrings sing, and there are butterflies aflutter. We begin creating a series of firsts together that we will never stop smiling about. Then, the comforting phase comes knocking. As we settle into our relationship we begin to grow comfortable. Slowly we slip into a realm where we can let loose, and we begin to build a routine around one another where our lives merge into one. we begin to let our life back in, and can do more things apart. A new set of firsts begin that invoke strengthening growth between you and your friend. Every relationship goes through a period of discovery early on, and discovery is always an indicator of growth. The comfort has settled in and now all your cats are coming out of the bag. This can also be where the beginning butterflies fade and the daily routines becomes a dominate role in both your lives. We start to discover each other more and sometimes fight like couples. This can be a trip of turmoil as we learn to compromise, adjust, and accept, but in the process we strengthen our bond, grow true respect, and come out of this discovery phase with a whole new perspective.
Life is what happens while you are busy making other plans. Two lives, and one busy relationship to manage! we two have daily responsibilities, long days, people who count on us, and the never ending continuum of life adventures. This is the important stage as it can lead the relationship into two different ends. If we are lucky enough to tackle the problems, we might end up having a happy one, with never ending love, or we should get convinced with the other unwanted end of the beautiful relationship – “Friendship Breakup ! “.
Many friendships simply slowly and gradually end as the two people involved drifts apart. One or the other of us has less time or need for the friendship, or maybe they are busier and have more interests to keep them occupied. There are many reasons why a friendship crumbles. There is pride, ego, betrayals of trust, competitive and jealous tendencies, negativity, unkindness and a lack of respect, and the list goes on. Even a huge fight and incommunicado could lead to a dramatic friendship breakup. The end of a friendship can be a really difficult time and losing someone who has been a big part of your life can be equally painful as the breakup of a romantic relationship. It is a cacophony of emotions in your head. The frustration, because we can’t do much about it now. The anger, because things didn’t go the way we expected, planned or hoped. Disappointment, because you didn’t expect them to behave in such a way. Pain, because you feel you lost something beautiful and life would never be the same again. Futility of anything and everything in life, because you’ve lost all that ever mattered. It’s even hard to sleep when their memories wraps and comforts us like a woolen shawl in cold lonely nights!
To get rid of these feelings. Slowly, our emotional immune system should begin to react and cope up accepting the reality that whatever had to happen has happened and you have to live with it and move on as a stranger.
“Move On ! Someday it might make sense “